Yet again my heart goes out to women in abusive relationships even marriages.
Though I do not understand why a person will be in a abusive relationship and still stay in the relationship; suffering and not smiling, but some suffering and smiling, but I guess, they do not recognize it is abusive.
The genesis and origin of some of these wahala is usually the foundation of the relationships.
if as a lady, you are dating a guy, whether you have prospects of marrying him or not, make sure he fits into the image of the man you’d like to marry, just in case.
Dating a man for dating sake has pushed some into their early graves.
One major problem also is the inability for this ladies to have a life of their own. They just leave their lives dormant, while IDLY WAITING for one guy to come and marry them into their homes.
For God sake, before you agree to saying “I do” before friends and guests, you should have had a working and functional life.
You should have a direction of where you intend your life to be headed.
Do not just carry any Mike, Tunde, Emeka and Ibraham and place as your partner in this journey of life.
I believe some of these abuse cases COULD HAVE BEEN AVOIDED OR AVERTED OR NOTICED EARLIER, but many times we walk in blindly to a relationship, sweeping the warning signs under the carpet, or making crappy and shallow excuses why you deserve the level of abuse meted out to you(this part shocks the life out of me).
If you open your ears, eyes, mouth, nose, heart and head, there is a 95% chance of you finding out your soon-to-be-husband is an abuser, except you got caught up in the web of a smooth criminal.
there are various forms of abuse: EMOTIONAL ABUSE, PHYSICAL ABUSE, SEXUAL ABUSE,and other forms of abuse, you do not deserve any form of abuse.
if eventually you discover you are being used as a punching bag, or that he is being toxic for you emotionally or that you are his sex slave, YOU CAN PUT A STOP TO IT.
NO ONE WILL CLAP FOR YOU WHEN YOU GET YOURSELF KILLED ALL IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE.
PEOPLE ARE ENJOYING BLISS IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS, YOU CAN ENJOY IT. YOU SHOULD ENJOY IT TOO.