Dear Tiger

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Dear Tiger

Good evening my chocolate dipped in strawberry and vanilla, how are you? I am fine too, just been thinking about a lot of things. I just thought it nice to bring this one to your notice.
Tiger Mi, I am confused about a lot of things but this one confused me all the more. Do you know there are men who are planning their marriage but cannot take a single decision without either running to their mother or to their pastors for a go ahead?
See, I believe a man, even a woman should have gotten to a point in their lives when they should have a say over their own lives. 

I believe many of them are scared of taking responsibility for their actions so they would rather roll the stone over.
Mine, how will a young man, run to his mum to ask her if he should buy a white boxer or a black one?

How will he run to his pastor to ask him/her if he should wear a red shirt or a navy blue shirt?
All this things shock and annoy me. I say it every day that marriage is not for those who think their age has climbed the ladder so high, thus the only thing needed is to find one unsuspecting, one undiscerning girl and marry her. Just to end up quarreling on their honeymoon night because he picked up his phone to ask is mother and pastor if he should sleep with his wife.
My Jewel, see I am not exaggerating, if you think I am, turn, see that man behind you. Well, I didn’t say he is one of them, I just wanted you to take your eyes away from the phone or PC for a moment.
We have a responsibility. A responsibility so massive yet so important. We need to be ready to train our children so they do not fall into this flock of immature bunch.
Tiger Mi, we will train our sons and our daughters too that they should be ready to take decisions whether or not we are available.

We will train our children to know that it is totally irresponsible for them to come taking permission before they brush their mouth. 
 Paddy of life, I am joyed, in fact really overjoyed that you are an exception. I am super excited that you are that rare creation that seems to be going into extinction but you escaped and came my way. I appreciate your effort. I appreciate your maturity. And trust me, you are going places.
Yours Always

Tigress.

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I woke up early and in the wee hours of this day, this word kept screaming out loud in my head while my fingers itched. So here I am penning.

Contentment is being whole heartedly satisfied with what you have at the moment, even though you know you could have more.
It is that state of mental maturity that many a humans find difficult to cultivate simply because we just have that thing in us that wants more. More and more.

At the different stages that we are in, there are things we have achieved and acquired that when we got them, we were super excited about them and felt the world roll at our feet, BUT as time ticked on, and we happened upon someone’s achievement might look like what we haven’t gotten and what we so desperately need to have and achieve, at such a time, we become irritated with what we already and begin to DESIRE in envy that which is another’s.

Contentment frees our head from UNHEALTHY JEALOUSY and UNNECESSARY ENVY.

Contentment is accepting where you are, knowing you are going somewhere and that’s it’s just a matter of time before you move up on the ladder of success and achieve.

Many times, when we are not contented with what we have, it is SIMPLY because we feel INADEQUATE and INCOMPLETE.

At other times, it isnjust because we are COMPARING ourselves with someone else. We forget that our journey and theirs are different and timed differently.

We will never be contented when we have a sense of ENTITLEMENT. Having the mindset that we DESERVE all the good things of life.

We display our lack of contentment because we FEEL that we should have passed this stage that we are in.

AND THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON WHY WE ARE NEVER CONTENTED IS BECAUSE WE HAVE NOT DISCOVERED OUR LIFE PURPOSE.
Discovering the purpose for your life helps you put a lot of things into perspective. It widens your eyes to the realities of your life and the truth of your PERSONAL JOURNEY.

Be contented in whatever you have.
Be contented with all you have acquired. Even when you have yourveyes for more.

Being contented helps you not to have a haughty eyes.
It keeps GREED far from you.

“It is a contented heart that will be made fat”.

You Are Grayed, SO?

Have you listened to people whose age have gone very far talk? They talk like children. Hian.
Sometimes when I listen to words that come out from their mouth I wonder how they carried on from their childhood through their teenage years and how they lived in their early adult age.

You know that feeling you get when you listen to a self acclaimed wise man and you’d want to tell him he is wrong but because of respect for his gray hairs and gray beards you remain mute and shake your head inside your mind and pity the person from your heart.
Some aged people can yarn off beat and the most annoying part of it all is when they ask you if you know how old they are. Then they would give you that old adage that says ‘what an old man sees while sitting, a child can’t see even while standing, abeg help me tell them that this generation is blessed by God to know wisdom and apply all the knowledge we’ve come to know.

You are old and so?
Does that give you the leverage to blab untrue words?
Have you encountered men of gray hair who behave like children, they are ready to brew quarrels, ready to exchange blows and even ready to undress in a bit to showcase their fighting prowess. Kai.

When will men of grey begin to act matured. We used to think that, the older a man gets, the wiser he becomes but with recent happenings, the reverse is the case for many of them.
I pray and hope that this unhealthy trend gives way.
I know some very old people with amazing sense of humour.
I know some amazing grayed people with wisdom emitting from their steps and from the words that pop out of their fingers.

I know some amazing aged and grayed people who teach you how to be a better person merely by the examples they set for you.
With them around, I know old age is not a curse. I believe gray hair is a blessing.
I love gray hair. I need gray hair.