Today we are greeted with the death of a final student of UNN who hung him and many seen to be arguing as to if he freely hung or if he was killed by someone else, all of the argument is meaningless if we do not go back to our own lives and ponder in retrospect and pick up lenses to view our tomorrow so we would see what we ain’t doing right today.
Some even go as far as saying the boy is stupid.
Truth be told, there is a tendency of each and every one of us ending our life journey after, if or when we go through those life challenges that we go through and because sharing with some people makes no difference, we resort to facing them alone and at a point, we get to a point of no return. We get to the point where we say, we can’t do it anymore.
If as a young graduate or undergraduate who has siblings younger than you are and who are looking up to you for their next meal and clothing, and looking at you, you have not been able to feed yourself, and things keep getting tighter and harder, you will agree with me that you may resent life and living but maybe your resentment hasn’t gotten to the point where you contemplated suicide.
If you are a spouse who has not been able to provide for his or family and you feel that weight on your neck, you will at some point resent the life you are living and often wonder what you are still doing alive or not doing right.
You may even be that one who doesn’t hurt a fly or who would do nothing to hurt anyone, but then life happens, people hurt your really badly and you fall into that booth of depression and true be told, the recession faced by many is not helping matters.
You may just be managing to scale through each day as it comes, but then at some juncture, you experience mishaps and disappointments and wonder why you have to go through it all.
So you see we all have that tendency of falling into a depressive state which if proper care isn’t taken, we may tilt towards suicide…
But then, you are here, alive, reading this; you may be there, holding on. Do not for any reason sound high and mighty as though, you are suicide proof. Just thank God.
There is no hard and fast rule or the one ring fits all escape plan that each and every one of us will wear that will give us full proof from all the issues of life.
People are going through stuff, people are hurting, people are dying daily even before you hear of their death, people are bleeding, crying, yet some have been able to grow thick skins and with bloodshot eyes face life squarely.
There is ONE truth many of us have not come to understand, which is, LIFE IS A SERIES OF UPS AND DOWNS, and our attitude towards each stage of either the ups and downs is what counts. But because we were not properly trained in problem handling, they seem to overwhelm us.
We are still shocked to the bones, when we face all we face at stage, we still hurt tremendously when we face these challenges, and it is not totally wrong that we feel and hurt as we do. And then, we just stop living.
Then we make decisions, based on hurt, based on pain, based on unforgiveness, based on fear, based on people are saying, have said and will say. Then we seek savoury explanations that will justify our indecision, and fear. We think of why one and one must amount to two before we dive.
And sometimes, we become so boxed in these our line of thoughts and arrived conclusions that we refuse to live, we refuse to do all we should do, we just because we.
We have just ONE life. Just ONE.
Live it worthwhile. Live it with purpose.