See, it will be rather demeaning that the only description that comes with your name is, “… this is Maureen, the wife of Mr. So and so and so”.
I don’t know the joy that comes from such. I was born an individual first before I got joined to anybody via holy matrimony. So why should my relevance be attached to someone else?
These days I see ladies who do nothing to grow and contribute their life, their family and their world but they invest all their time on finding a rich and handsome man to marry so he can rescue them from themselves.
As a lady, the potential to excel is in you and you leaving them dormant and useless is you showing us how selfish and unproductive you are.
You are wired to succeed, but the success won’t come by merely doing nothing.
Imagine that you would come to this earth and not make any impact.
Imagine that you will come to this world and not maximize all or even one quarter of the abilities, talents, and possibilities inside of you.
Imagine that you would not even recognize that you are a vessel.
Imagine that you as a woman will only be known and remembered as just the wife of one Mister. ( ha ba).
Isn’t it scary? It scares the living daylight out of me that perhaps one day, when I am no longer on this side of the earth and when they want to describe me or talk about me, they’d have nothing to say but ” she was the wife of ….
Don’t get me wrong here, I am not saying it is bad that a lady would be described as Mrs.Somebody but being described as JUST Mrs. Somebody (emphasis on Just).
You are a woman, so what?
You have hands, legs, eyes, brains and all that a man has (except of course for his sexual organs).
You have opportunities, education, skills and all that is made available to you.
You are an oil well that needs to be discovered and tapped.
You are a bunch of gifts. Use them.
Let your zeal to grow, change, contribute and make impact be the motivating factor you need every morning as you wake up.
If nothing, let the fact that you hope to bring children into this world because the FUEL you need to get up today and do something.
Enough of this shallow women loitering around earth.
Enough of this women mindset that a man should do all the providing.
Enough of this mindset that you have soaked ourselves in, that you are an “obiangeri”. ( The one who came Just to eat).