Dear Society,

Sometimes I sit back behind my keypad or keyboard crying, not because someone beat me or hurt me, not because I sliced onion, not because I am close to the kitchen, BUT because every step of the way I see a people who have putso much IMPORTANCE on the VAGINA thereby leaving the BRAIN useless and less functional…

I see a society where after you finish your university and emerge with a beautiful degree, you head to get a job that you qualify for, but the man seated before you asks you to forget the certificate and use what your have – your vagina, to secure your spot in the office, I still don’t get it.

I see a society that will rather invest in beauty pageantry for females than on the intelllectual development of the girl child.

I asked someone why the society places so much importance on the vagina but downplays the brain and his simple answer was because “the society likes sex” that is why for advertising even coffee, they attach a sex appeal. Sad but true.

I see a bride used as the picture for a hotel billboard and still I don’t understand why.

No wonder a lecturer in school would rather ask to sleep with a lady to let her pass a course she sat for and wrote well.

Sex sells. Every day. No wonder people would rather chuckle and giggle whenever a topic on sex is brought but frown and sigh when a topic on the importance of reading and the development of the mind is raised.

NOW bringing this crazy importance we attach on sex and the vagina; this is one of the highest reasons why victims of sexual exploitation, abuse or rape would rather choose to be silent about it than speak up because they feel they have been DAMAGED.

I’ve been having talks with some people and many of them said, their lives never remained the same after the incident and the sad part of this tale is that they are intelligent fellows who by society’s standard have been damaged.

If a lady was a virgin before an abuse case, the society makes it as though her life has ended. I have had an almost similar scenerio with some Nigerians who wanted to make me feel as though my life had ebded, but not until I reminded them they were late to the party, and they kept staring at me in shock and disbelief wondering if this one had shame at all.
Of course I had no shame as regards matters like this because I have come to know that many of them are hypocrital hypocritics( don’t ask me the meaning).

I know the pride in saving one’s virginity till after the wedding but spare me the sentimental bullcrap when you subtly initiate that someone should hang a noose around their neck just because they lost their virginity. Life does not end there.
If a person has theirs intact, fine for them and them alone, but if a person does not have theirs, they should not be castigated, cos you never know.

We channel so much energy to irrelevant matters while we should be focused on more important matters. Like saving the world from HATE, ENVY, And chronic IGNORANCE.

And i’ve come to know that many of them did not live the way they are preaching and advocating for you to live.

Then over to the group that have mastered their game in slut-shaming ladies, I pity their sorry asses because I have come to understand that ignorance does more harm than even the corruption we sing and clap about.
If you slut-shame a lady and she buys it, owns it and turns around to use it to her advantage, sorry for you.

Dear Ladies, your value, worth, esteem, importance and social graces does NOT lie in your Vagina, but in your brain and in how you are able to channel your knowledge and intellect into World advantage.

#DemystifyAbuse

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